Traditional dating and internet dating the pros and cons

And you’re less likely to commit to that option,” Finkel says.“It’s like, ‘Eh, there’s something better out there,’ or ‘I’m overloaded.’ ” The online dating industry’s reliance on profiles is what Finkel calls its “first original sin.” People naturally try to present a polished version of themselves, often stretching the truth on matters such as age, weight and height.This is especially good, the authors say, for those who might otherwise have a hard time meeting people — single parents, workaholics, those who are new in town, recently divorced or not heterosexual.

Similarly, the report says, “people become cognitively overwhelmed” as they scan dozens of profiles.

“You end up a bit less satisfied with the thing you choose — like your chocolate or romantic partner.

Monika Lupean, a 54-year-old yoga instructor from Maryland, has experienced that problem repeatedly in her four years of online dating.

“It seems like the more I have in common with someone on paper, the less I actually have in common with them in person,” she says.

She fitted none of his top criteria — “He said he liked baseball, grilling and political activism,” she recalls.

“At the time, I was a vegetarian and knew nothing about baseball and cared very little for politics” — but they fell in love and were married less than two years later.

Finkel’s “second original sin” of online dating is the promotion of scientific algorithms for compatibility.

Some sites, such as e Harmony, match people based on similarities.

Others, such as Chemistry, use complementary personality facets to set up singles.

The study found that none of these factors can be predictive of long-term relationship success.

Social scientists have confirmed what most singletons have known for years: Online dating is a crapshoot. But the sites also reduce daters into two-dimensional profiles and often overwhelms them with potential choices. It gives opportunities to singles who otherwise wouldn’t have them,” says Eli J.

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