Game set and match speed dating
Worst that happens is you get a good story out of it.
I feel very similarly about first dates: I would venture every human is nervous on a first date, because it's weird and awkward and, shit, you didn't know she doesn't eat gluten, and do you kiss at the end, and please don't high-five because someone did that to me once and it was horrible. You've survived the first date, some of the pressure's off, but you're (hopefully) still in that magical early place where just accidentally touching skin is thrilling and there's still so much to learn about each other.
Each participant went on 10 to 14 six-minute dates.
Since each woman would not have the opportunity to meet every man, and vice versa, because of the size of the event we also offered a post-official-dating mingle time for people to hit on each other the old-fashioned way.
I like to think overall the setup is similar to online dating, which I have done, but I have often thought of as parallel to trying to meet someone at a bar.
Some of the people you think you're attracted to are probably jerks, and some are diamonds in the rough you wouldn't realize are awesome until you talk to them.
A couple of participants noted that they met people they liked whom they know they never would have met outside of the "controlled" dating environment. Almost all—I haven't actually done the math, but I would venture around 95 percent—participants had multiple people interested in them but whom they hadn't indicated interest in.
Sometimes, sure, it's simply a missed connection, but I think it goes back to being more open in general.Outside of dire incompatibility, always go on a second date. Women tend to make friends with other women while seeking men, which is awesome I went through an odd period in my mid-20s when I would go out to bars and parties and accidentally pick up women-friends instead of dudes to make out with.It was sort of great, and I think part of the decision to "put yourself out there" in a bar on a Friday night or while speed-dating in a bookstore is somehow pheromone-ally discernible or something, even in a platonic way.Therefore, by the law of deductive reasoning (a.k.a. Although more than one man has written "I'm interested in anyone who picks me," which is kind of disturbing in its own desperate way, and plenty selected a handful of gals to see again, overall men were much more likely to indicate interest in only one or two women.), these speed-dating lessons therefore apply to online dating, which therefore apply to all dating. However, one time I made fun of them for it in the opening remarks, and it changed: At that event, most men picked more than two women.Even though this sounds kind of sexist, along the lines of "guys secretly want to bone all the girls they're friends with," it's true.Tags: Adult Dating, affair dating, sex dating